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February 28 COMMON SENSE FOR BLOG SPACES Over the past week, I've received emails or messages telling me not to use someone's blog space, complaining about the fact I haven't left any comments at a blog space, telling me the person wants to "get to know me better", whining about me not adding them to my friend list or network, etc. I know it doesn't do any good to write a blog about these things because the people who wrote these messages and sent the emails apparently don't bother reading anything on people's profiles or any of the blogs before lodging their complaints. However, I'm going to blog about these problems and give my explanations.
Complaint 1: I've told people I'm closing down my space so please stop using it to post things for your own gain.
Response: I have no idea who you are because your name doesn't appear on either my friend list or in my updates. There's no way I could even know how to find the space until you sent me a message telling me not to use your space. If you don't want people to use your space, something I'm not doing, just close it down.
Complaint 2: You haven't left any comments at my blog.
Response: Chances are you haven't written any blogs within the past few weeks, I have nothing important or interesting to add, I have no advice to offer, whatever you've posted has moved me in some way, or ... most obvious ... you're not even on my friend list.
Stupidity 1: I'm a ___ old man living in _____ and have a wonderful son/daughter who is ___ years old. My wife died unexpectedly ____ years ago and I'm looking for a loving wife and mother for my son/daughter.
Response: Try the online dating services. Better yet, get a real life. Your story may be true, but I have my doubts. I've received the same message from at least 10 other men and the list is growing.
Stupidity 2: I saw your picture and profile and I like what I see and I think we'd be great together. Meet me at [insert website link here].
Response: Hello! I'm a woman. You're a woman. What's wrong with this picture? If you'd take a few minutes to really read my blogs, you'd find out you're chasing the wrong person.
Complaint 3: You have my friends on your list but you won't add me.
Response: Check your space. If you don't have anything posted there, I won't add you. I won't link to anyone if they won't even tell me a little bit about themself.
Complaint 4: *Especially applies to my MySpace* You're a ______ [add cussing here] for not adding me to your network. _____ _____! [more cussing]
Response: I have a list posted on my profile page telling you exactly what I'll add to my network. I also have a blog which lists the specifics. The language you use in your angry protest of my decision reflects the language found at your space. Before asking to be added to a network, read the information and you won't have to cuss out the "owner" for rejecting you.
Complaint 5: *Applies to my other Windows Space* I can't believe you won't add me to your space.
Response: The top two blogs in my blog list explain I'll be shutting down the space by March 7th. If you would've taken the time to actually read my blogs before asking me to add you to my list, you would understand.
Stupidity 3: I can't believe you left that comment! It was mean and cruel! And you call yourself a Christian?
Response: If you don't want to hear my opinion on any given subject, don't post it as a blog and then ask me for my opinion or advice. My comment will be based on my understanding of the Biblical principles concerning the topic.
Ok, you all prbably think I've ranted and raved long enough. I agree. I've had my say and I'm finished. February 21 MILEAGE TAX I took the time to read some of the news reports about the rumored mileage tax. If you haven't heard about this yet, there are some people within our government who actually want to tax us for every mile we drive. When is it going to end? A lot of the price you pay to put gas in your car are taxes. A lot of states are making even more and more highways "turnpikes" or toll roads where you pay for the distance you drive on those roads. Part of the fees you pay to register your car is supposed to go to the state. There are additional fees added to traffic tickets besides the actual fine and court costs for the violation (something you don't have to worry about if you follow the law). "The system would require all cars and trucks be equipped with global satellite positioning technology, a transponder, a clock and other equipment to record how many miles a vehicle was driven, whether it was driven on highways or secondary roads, and even whether it was driven during peak traffic periods or off-peak hours. Maybe I'm just being paranoid, but does this sound like an invasion of privacy to you? Why do they need to know how many hours I drive, when I drive, and where I drive in order to collect a tax that's supposedly only based on how far I drive? Why don't they just put one of those monitoring things on my ankle like they do criminals on house arrest and track my every move? CABIN FEVER? The only reason I'm writing this blog is so I can feel like I actually accomplished something for the day. One of my favorite things to say in a chat room when I don't like a food someone mentions or someone says something a little disgusting is "ACCCCCCCCCCCCK". Imagine the sound a cat makes when he/she has a hairball. I know that's gross, so go ahead and say it with me ... ACCCCCCCCCK!
Why am I saying that today? Because that's how I feel. I really hate this time of year. By the time the middle of February rolls around, I'm tired of the snow, I feel like I'll never get warm again, and I just can't seem to get motivated to do much of anything. During the week, I drag myself out of bed and go to work and when I get home, I sit around only thinking about the things I could be doing, but not doing anything at all. On the weekends, I roll out of bed (or off the couch if I fell asleep watching something on tv) around 10 or 11am, check the computer for emails and blog updates, then sit around the rest of the day not wanting to do anything. Well, there is the occassional stink bug that manages to sneak into the house from somewhere and I have to track it down and get rid of it before it drives me crazy.
So why am I telling you all about this? I don't know. Maybe you're experiencing the same thing and it'll just help you feel better to know someone else is feeling the same way. Who knows?
I have a few friends here who've created "to do" lists and seem to have managed to get some of the things crossed off the list. I think I'll try doing that, although I'll probably only get motivated enough to create the list, but not motivated enough to actually do any of those things. The only way I'll know is to give it a try. All I know for sure is that when spring finally decides to come to my area of the country, things will seem brighter and I'll turn back around to having a more positive attitude. So now that I've bored you all, I'll go try to get something accomplished. February 16 LOVE IN MINUTES I heard a country song on the way home from work today and it really got me to thinking. In the song, the singer ask that if knew you only had a short time to live, what would you write? He mentioned the coal miners who died in that mine in West Virginia. The basics of the song is to imagine you have only a short time to live and knew that fact. You're in a dark room and only have the light from a lighter in order to see around you. You find a pen and piece of paper. What would you write to the people who mean the most to you in your life?
This would be my letter: "There are so many people in my life I love dearly ... my family, friends, and people who've just passed through my life in a matter of minutes. I'm sorry if I never told you all enough how much I loved you and how much I needed you in my life. I regret the things I've said in anger and for which I never took the time to apologize. This may mean nothing to you now, but I am so very sorry. I've tried to live my life as a follower of Christ, to live by his guidelines, and have probably failed more times than I've succeeded. Don't let my poor example turn you away from the Savior. Run to him and hold on tightly. The only thing that will last in this life is love. Often that was the only thing I had to offer and I hope I gave freely. If you don't remember anything else about me, remember I loved you. If you do nothing else in your life, love each other. Now, with time running short, I hope and pray we all meet around the throne of God. May God bless and keep you all."
What would you write in your letter? February 14 BE MINE If you look back through the blogs I've written since I started here at Windows Spaces, you'll notice a trend. Except for a few examples of things from my personal experiences and the blogs where I tell you a little about myself, I don't usually reveal my deepest personal thoughts ... the things about my personal relationships and life. I've decided to open up a little bit (maybe a lot) in this blog. Why? It's Valentine's day and reading about or hearing people talk about their relationships has me feeling a little lonely. I guess the main thing is I'm feeling like there's something about me which marks me as a "bad catch". Well ... that's bad wording because no one seems to even want to take a second look.
If you've just surfed in from a link or something, don't go thinking this blog is my "single and looking" posting and send me a message saying you want a date. I get enough of those stupid messages anyway. Most of those state "I've seen your profile and want to get to know you better". Well, getting those from women only means you don't know a thing about me and haven't read my profile or any of my blogs. If you want to get to know me better, do us both a favor and do some reading first. Ok, enough about that.
As I said, I think there's something about me which scares men away. Most of the time, I think it has to do with the way I look. Take a look at the pictures of me I have posted. Be honest ... if you're a man (or you girls can answer), do you think I'm even partly good looking? Is my hair too gray? Is it too short? If you were surfing the dating services and looking for the right woman, would you by-pass me only because, in my pictures, I'm not a super model or not wearing clothes which leave nothing to the imagination? I think at least my pictures are a true representation of who I am. Maybe I'm thinking the wrong way, but ... why is it men my age who are interested in finding a deeper relationship so shallow they want the woman to look like a super model, yet they're overweight and bald? Not that their weight and hair would mean much to me as long as they're good people inside. I just think it's crazy to hold the woman to a higher standard of outward appearances than the man is willing to do himself. The only men who seem to tell me they think I'm good looking and they're "kind of interested" in me are those who are 20 years older than me, married men who're having problems with their current relationships, or those who don't really want a committed relationship to begin with. What do men really look for in a woman besides outward appearances? Are all men like the ones I meet who seem to be intimidated by a woman who actually knows something about sports (sometimes more than they do) and speaks her mind about the important issues of the day? Do they all want a woman they can bend around their little fingers and do everything their way so they won't even talk to a woman who is self-confident and believes a relationship goes two ways?
Now for an embarrassing admission. I'm sure you've heard of the online dating service which connects people on "29 points of compatibility". I joined that service. Stop laughing! I've been sent many "matches" based on those 29 points. That should be a good start ... pre-screened by things which both the man and woman find important. Then you fill out this little profile people can read once you've been matched. At least half of the men I've been matched with have almost identical answers as mine. That should be an even better start. But not one of those men have even said hello. What else can I think but they take one look at my pictures and run away screaming? What are they looking for? I can only think they want that super model (who wouldn't need a dating service to get a man's attention) who will overlook their own mediocre appearance and see only the man inside.
Now for the big decision. Do I post this blog or not? I guess I will. February 13 SUPERSTITIONS Being Friday the 13th, I couldn't help but sit at work today and think about how many people I know who hate the day because their superstitions lead them to believe that bad things will happen on this day. This day is no different from any other day. If something bad does happen, it being Friday the 13th only gives the person something on which to blame their misfortune.
If you do "A" and "B" follows, it has nothing to do with bad or good "luck". There may be some logical reasons for following certain superstitions, but they have nothing to do with any cause and effect related to some silly superstition. Let's take a look at a few.
1) Walking under a ladder will not cause things such as your car battery to die or losing your wallet. The only time you should avoid walking under a ladder is if someone is up there working. I only say this because it's possible the person could drop a tool, lose their grip on a bucket of paint, etc.
2) A black cat crossing your path will not cause the ATM to "eat" your bank car or a flat tire. It is true, if the cat crosses close enough, you could trip over the cat.
3) Breaking a mirror will not cause a tree to fall on your house or the cable to go out during your favorite sporting event. The worst thing that can happen is you cut your self trying to clean up the glass. Now some more about today. Why do people have a fear of bad things happening on Friday the 13th? Is there something which happened in history on some previous Friday the 13th which was so horrible people decided it had to be the date that had something to do with the event? Do you even know the history of why Friday the 13th is considered "unlucky"? If you don't know how Friday the 13th became "unlucky", think about the Bible. What day of the week do we believe Jesus was crucified? How many men were there when you count the disciples and Christ? Were your answers "Friday" and "13"? There you have it. The two things were tied together and, because it was the thirteenth man who betrayed Christ and Christ was crucified on Friday, Friday the 13th was designated "unlucky". Now I ask you this ... does it really make any sense to consider the day unlucky and think terrible things will happen to us for no other reason than it's the thirteenth day of the month and it's Friday? February 08 CONDONING : PART 2 I was going to add this as a comment under my previous blog, but it was getting long and I decided to post it as part two of that topic.
I want to clarify something and I hope it doesn't make anyone too angry. Although I will be friends with people regardless of what I perceive to be the sin in their life, based on my understanding of the Biblical texts concerning that behavior, that does not mean I accept that behavior as acceptable (I don't condone the sin). When ask about that particular behavior, I'll tell people exactly what I believe. More often than not, that has led to people labelling me as "judgemental". If stating that I believe the Bible condemns a behavior as sinful makes me judgemental, so be it.
An example may be in order. I'll choose adultery. I doubt there are very few Christians who would say that adultery, for any reason, is acceptable. If a person is married and they have an "affair" with another person, that's adultery and a sin and I can't condone that behavior. There are no excuses that I find acceptable for breaking one of God's commandments. If you do, you sin. If you continue to have that affair, you're living in constant sin. Will God forgive you? Yes. But you also have to stop committing that sin ... what is known as repentance. As I see it, if you constantly commit a sin, it does absolutely no good to keep asking for forgiveness. You have to break off the affair. How sincere is someone about thier faith if they can't stop doing smething they know is wrong? I'm not saying we won't slip back into doing the same thing again, just that as soon as you realize you're sinning, it has to be stopped. Where our main differences come into play is for certain words and actions which have been described in the Bible, yet people have formed different beliefs about what the passages mean. I don't want to accuse anyone of doing this, but ... As our world and cultures change, people have decided to change (or ignore) the long-held beliefs of the Christian faith in order to be tolerant of every and all behaviors. If something was considered a sin 1000 years ago, why are we changing that now? Are we really any smarter or more logical than the Christians who came before us? Science has also provided what they claim are studies which show that certain behaviors are caused by our genetic code, mental illnesses, or other "natural" explanations. I have to say ... God created us and knows exactly how our internal codes and brainwaves work thus causing certain behaviors. Because he does, it would be ridiculous to think he had someone write that those things were sins if we have no control over our bodies causing us to commit those sins. There is a big difference between passing a judgement about a certain behavior (calling sin a sin) and passing judgement on people. Yes, it's a difficult concept to grasp. If no one should be making judgement calls about behaviors, based on the Biblical teachings on those behaviors, no member of the clergy would be correct in standing in the pulpit teaching against those behaviors. It wouldn't be reasonable for them to stand there and call people to repentance. They'd have no right to teach, correct, and rebuke the members of the congregations.
Galatians 5:19-21 The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissentions, factions and envy; drunkeness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 6:7-8 do not be decieved: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
Yes, the blood of Jesus cleanses away those sins. Some people even teach that the blood will cover every sin in your future. The argument goes that if someone is living in a constant state of sin (or falls into such a life), they weren't really a Christian in the first place. That is, as many of you said in your comments to the previous post, judging the person and not the sin. I agree that is God's job, not mine. All I can do is teach the lessons, call people to repentance, and leave the Final Judgement up to Supreme Judge of man. February 06 CONDONING CERTAIN BEAHVIORS " ______ [insert name here]. I can no longer be friends with you because you ________ [insert reason here]."
Have you ever received a letter like this? Has anyone ever told you the same thing to your face? I have and I'm sure, at one time or another in your life, you have also. How did it feel when the person told you that? Have you ever broken off a long standing friendship for any reason? If so, why? You don't have to answer any of these questions by leaving comments, I just want you to think about them for a few minutes.
The reason I chose the title I did for this blog is because of something one of my friends was brave enough to openly admit on the internet and to his/her family. I won't mention a name because if you don't know the person, the name isn't what's important ... the outcome is where we need to focus. It warms my heart to see that this person's friends didn't leave comments blasting them about his/her admission, nor did they start disappearing from his/her friends list. Real friends stand by people no matter what happens. I'm still that person's friend and I hope that will always be true.
Now to the main point of this blog. While discussing certain lifestyles and behaviors at Christian chat rooms and forums, I've often been accused of condoning things which other people, and oftentimes I myself, consider to be sins. This happens because I'll state my beliefs once or twice if the person asks, yet I don't continue trying to shove my views down the other person's throat. Then, while other chatters or posters try their hardest to and often succeed in getting the person banned for expressing their views or, if that doesn't succeed they completely ignore the person, I continue to have long and interesting conversations with that person.
Is being a friend to someone with which I disagree really condoning or supporting their lifestyle, criminal activity, or religious beliefs? No ... not if I tell them just where I stand on any given issue, don't financially support their causes, and report the crimes to the proper authorities. I'm friends with all types of people I consider sinners. I have friends who are homosexuals, adulterers, liars, drug and alcohol abusers, and the list goes on. There are some Christians out there telling me that by being friends with such people, I'm condoning thier actions. To that I say, if you're not strong enough in your faith and feel you'll be tempted to sin by hanging around such people, then stay away from them. As for me, I consider these people my neighbors as in "love your neighbor as youself".
The two greatest commandments are to love God and love each other. "Each other" means everyone if you tie that with the verses about loving your enemies (and I don't consider people my enemy just because they live in opposition to my beliefs). Jesus served as the ultimate example of such love. While we were yet sinners, he died for us. Was he condoning any particular set of beliefs or certain lifestyles and behaviors when he died for us while we were still sinners. NO!!!! The same applies to us, at least to me, in that we can be friends with people while not condoning what they do.
The next time you're about to write a long standing friendship out of your life by using the logic that you can't be friends with that person because you'd feel as if you'd be condoning some behavior ask yourself this question and answer it honestly. When was the last time Jesus stopped being your friend because he couldn't condone your behavior? February 02 SUPER STEELERSCONGRATULATIONS STEELERS !!!!!!!!
I'm wildly waving my terrible towel for my boys!
PITTSBURGH 27 ........ Arizona 23
The Pittsburgh Steelers win Super Bowl LVIII in an exciting fashion. They tried to kill me because I didn't know if my heart could handle the tension at the end of the game.
History is made and records are set:
The Steelers are the first team in NFL history to win six Super Bowls.
Mike Tomlin is the youngest head coach (36 years old) to lead his team to a Super Bowl victory. James Harrison records the longest touchdown run ever in a Super Bowl by returning an interception 100 yards. WAY TO GO STEELERS !!!!!! |
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